Why women have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause sadness, and other problems. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating married men.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking affairs. I am conserned generally though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your relatives or anyone else? You would need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major group, very big really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your funds are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is disappeared, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have just grown separately, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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